Ah, France. The land of baguettes, croissants, fine wine, and a certain je ne sais quoi that makes everything feel just a little more refined. But before you hop on that flight with dreams of effortlessly blending in with the locals, let’s have a quick reality check. France has its own rhythm, customs, and social rules. And while the French will hardly chase you out of a café for committing a faux pas, understanding what to avoid can make your experience much smoother (and more fun). Think of these as insider tips from your travel-savvy friends rather than strict rules. So, let’s dive into the top 10 things that will instantly give you away as a tourist, and how to avoid them!
1. Assume everyone speaks English
Picture this: You are standing in a charming café in Nice, confidently launching into your coffee order in English, only to be met with that infamous Gallic shrug. While many French people do speak English (and quite well!), starting a conversation without a simple "Bonjour" and "Parlez-vous anglais?" is like walking into someone's home without knocking. The French take immense pride in their beautiful language, a cornerstone of their rich cultural heritage.
Making an effort to speak even a few French words can transform your interactions from merely transactional to warmly personal. Keep some key phrases handy, and watch as your simple greeting brings out the warmest smiles and most helpful responses from locals. Many French people speak good English and they will appreciate your courteous approach to starting the conversation in their language.
2. Treat coffee like it is just caffeine
If you are expecting your morning grand cup of joe with vanilla syrup and extra whip, you might be in for a surprise. In France, coffee is an experience, albeit a precisely measured one. When you order "un café," you will receive a perfectly pulled espresso in a dainty cup, meant to be savored at a leisurely pace while people watching from a sidewalk terrace.
If you are looking for something closer to American coffee, order a "café allongé" (like an Americano) or a "café crème" (similar to a latte). And if you can, enjoy your coffee at the café instead of rushing off. The idea of taking it to go might just make your waiter swoon onto the nearest chair! Here, coffee breaks celebrate moments beyond a caffeine sprint to your morning. They are sacred rituals where time slows down, and you are practically required by law to look contemplative while watching the world go by. Remember, coffee breaks focus on more than just a caffeine boost, they offer a moment to pause and appreciate life's simple pleasures, even if those pleasures come in surprisingly small portions.
3. Dress too casually
The French excel at being neat. They might look effortlessly chic, but that is because they have mastered the art of dressing well without looking like they tried too hard. While tourists in gym clothes stick out like a sore thumb, putting together an outfit will help you blend in. Opt for tailored jeans, a stylish coat, or a well-fitted dress rather than overly casual or athletic wear.
When dining out, avoid shorts, baseball caps, or anything resembling pajama pants. The French favor classic, understated elegance over loud and flashy styles. Even accessories are kept tasteful, a sleek scarf or a well-chosen handbag can elevate your look. And remember footwear! Comfortable yet stylish shoes like loafers or ankle boots are a much better choice than bulky sneakers. Even if you are just sightseeing, looking polished will help you feel more at home.
4. Expect a firm handshake instead of a hug
You may be a hugger, but the French are slightly less touchy. While close friends greet each other with la bise (the famous cheek kiss), strangers and acquaintances usually stick to a light handshake. A sudden bear hug might catch your French acquaintance off guard. When in doubt, wait and see how the locals greet you. If they lean in for la bise, just go with it - two light air kisses, one on each cheek (starting with the right). However, the number of kisses can vary by region, in some places, it is just one, while in others, it can be three or even four!
Also, note that la bise is more common between women or between a man and a woman, while men often stick to a handshake unless they are close friends or family. Understanding these nuances will help you navigate social interactions smoothly in France.
5. Rush through a meal
If you think dinner in France is just about eating, think again. It is a ritual, a social event, and sometimes, an all-evening affair. Unlike other countries, where waitstaff might drop the check before you have even finished chewing, French restaurants won’t bring the bill until you ask for it (L’addition, s’il vous plaît). Expect a slow, multi-course meal with plenty of conversation in between, often starting with an apéritif (a pre-dinner drink) and ending with a digestif (a post-dinner liqueur). Cheese is typically served before dessert, instead of an appetizer.
Tipping remains optional since service comes included in the bill, but leaving small change for exceptional service is appreciated. If you are in a hurry, grab a sandwich jambon-beurre (ham and butter baguette) from a bakery instead, or opt for a plat du jour (daily special) for a quicker dining experience.
6. Ignore bread and its own set of rules
The relationship with bread is almost sacred and there are unwritten rules about how to enjoy it. It has a special place on the table, resting directly on the cloth rather than on a plate. Here it is meant to accompany your meal, instead of being eaten beforehand. Butter is typically reserved for breakfast, unless you are dining in an upscale restaurant where it is provided.
Another key dining custom: French chefs take their creations seriously. Menus are carefully curated, so requesting modifications, extra sauces, or ingredient changes is uncommon. Meals are designed to highlight balance and flavor, so trust the chef’s expertise and savor each dish as it is intended. Whether you are dipping a baguette into a rich sauce or using it to finish a plate, bread is more than just an accompaniment, it is a cherished part of French dining.
7. Undervalue wine etiquette
When it comes to wine, France wrote the book—literally. It is the birthplace of some of the world’s finest wines, where tradition and craftsmanship are deeply ingrained in every bottle. Ordering a Coke with your Bordeaux? Sacrilege. Ice cubes in your glass? Mon dieu! The key is to embrace the local specialties and appreciate the nuances of French wine culture.
Each region has its own iconic varieties, from Champagne’s crisp bubbles to Burgundy’s elegant reds. The best way to enjoy them is to go with the flow. Trust the sommelier’s recommendations, sip slowly, and savor each note and aroma. Pairing wine with food is an art, so explore local pairings like a robust Rhône wine with hearty dishes or a Loire Valley white with fresh seafood. Drinking wine in France is an experience, a history lesson, and a celebration of terroir in every glass. Raise your glass, take your time, and enjoy the journey.
8. Speak loudly in public spaces
In France, loud conversations are often perceived as disruptive to the calm atmosphere locals hold dear. Whether you're travelling in the metro, walking through a picturesque park or enjoying your daily dose of caffeine, keeping your volume low is key! Discretion and subtlety are two rules to keep in mind if you want to avoid disapproving glances or even a polite but pointed "shh!".
The appreciation for quietness expands to other public spaces like museums, historical monuments and churches. France is home to some of the world's most renowned attractions, like the Louvre or the Notre Dame Cathedral, each inviting for reverence and quiet contemplation. Therefore, when visiting these places, you should avoid loud conversations and be mindful of your movements. Many monuments have strict no-photography rules, so look for signs or staff members before snapping any pictures.
9. Skip the pharmacy for health needs
Have a headache or feeling under the weather? Instead of searching for medication in a supermarket, head straight to a pharmacy. In France, pharmacies are the go-to spots for health concerns, with knowledgeable pharmacists ready to assist. They often provide personalized recommendations and effective remedies that might be unavailable elsewhere. You can describe your symptoms, and they will suggest an appropriate treatment, often with a level of expertise comparable to a doctor's visit.
Pharmacies are easy to spot with their glowing green cross, and many offer homeopathic and natural solutions alongside traditional medicine. If you need cold relief, skincare advice, or digestive aids, pharmacists are well-equipped to help. It’s an efficient and reliable way to get back to enjoying your trip.
10. Expect shops and restaurants to stay open all day
In some countries, convenience stores and restaurants seem to have an endless supply of energy. However, French businesses prefer a more relaxed approach, especially in smaller towns. Many shops take a well-deserved lunch break, where owners and employees enjoy a proper meal rather than inhaling a sandwich. Sundays? That is a sacred day for family gatherings, rest, and leisurely strolls rather than shopping sprees. Instead of searching for an open store in desperation, take the opportunity to slow down, sip a café au lait, explore a museum and appreciate the French art of enjoying life. With a little planning, you will soon find yourself adapting to this pleasant rhythm.
Embracing the French way for an authentic experience!
Life in France has its own unique rhythm, shaped by traditions, elegance, and an appreciation for the finer things. This distinct way of doing things is part of what makes the country so captivating. Embracing local customs opens the door to a richer experience, filled with delightful moments and meaningful interactions. So, slip into your best outfit, perfect your café-ordering skills, and immerse yourself in the adventure. Let Tourtailors design the perfect trip, allowing you to explore France like a true insider. All you have to do is to enjoy the ride. Bon voyage!
